How his chart loves (Venus and Moon)
A person’s Venus shows how they express affection and what they are drawn to; their Moon shows how they actually feel and attach. Someone can have strong attraction (Venus) without deep emotional attachment (Moon), which is exactly the mixed signal that leaves you confused. Reading his Venus and Moon explains the gap between how he acts and how he feels.
Do your charts actually connect? (synastry)
Real love shows in the comparison of two charts. Steady Moon-to-Moon or Venus-to-Moon contact between your chart and his indicates genuine emotional resonance — the "feels like home" bond — versus pure attraction that burns and fades. Synastry is where "does he love me" stops being a guess and becomes something the charts can show.
Distance is not always absence
Some charts love deeply but show it through distance, duty, or slowness (Saturn-influenced Venus, or a reserved Moon). A partner who pulls away is not always uninterested — sometimes the chart simply does not perform affection the way you expect. Knowing his chart tells you whether the distance is detachment or just his way of loving.